Peace in People
It has been one of the quieter weeks in my life—not because it had to be, but because I chose it to be.
Silence has consequences. Some good, some uncomfortable. A few unexpected. One moment stood out among them all—the “kismart” story—a quiet, bro-to-bro exchange that shifted my perspective.
The Setting
I decided to end the week by meditating at a place I had visited before for the same purpose. Upon arrival, I set my timer for an hour on my watch. I had left my phone behind intentionally—this was routine for me.
I sat reflecting—less about the week itself and more about life in general.
Just as I was about to leave, a guy walked in—the messenger of the hour.
The Encounter
He asked for my name. I told him.
He didn’t introduce himself. Instead, he sat quietly for a moment. When he finally broke the silence, he said he loved that I was meditating—but added that I shouldn’t do it alone.
“Try weed.”
He repeated it several times throughout our conversation.
Strangely, I had already imagined someone telling me to try weed. My mind does that sometimes.
Earlier, he had arrived and sat at a distance where we could see each other, though not clearly. We were the only two people there without company. I guess he decided to break the solitude.
He told me he had “done it all”—whatever I am sharing.
His Story
He said it hurts.
He acknowledged his mistakes and embraced the consequences.
The worse the hurt and consequences, the better the lesson.
He had recovered at some point—but fell again for a while.
I gave him an ear.
We were different in many ways, yet I created space for him to talk. He spoke sense, and I wasn’t amazed. That’s why I listen to anyone, regardless of who they are.
What He Shared
1. Avoid Alcohol, Spirits, and Women
(Notably, he excluded “weed”—his “weed”)
He reasoned that alcohol, spirits, and women often work together in weakening a man.
He spoke with regret—especially about sex—saying each encounter took more from him than he expected and required time to recover from.
2. Learn Whom to Trust and Invest In
Not everyone deserves access to you.
He was clearly against women, but I listened without inserting my opinion.
Have friends. Invest in them. Don’t expect anything in return.
He emphasized that relationships are shaped by current connections.
3. Invest in Yourself
“Not even your child will want to be hurried with you.”
He described meditation as a tool that pulls you away from the world so you can observe yourself clearly.
Once you see your end goal, do the opposite of the majority.
Self-investment builds confidence and presence—it commands attention without effort.
4. Meditate Before Action
Think before you act.
He came to that place for the same reason I did.
Meditation, he said, saves time—and time is vividly valuable.
5. Don’t Change—Stay Who You Are
Be who you are, yesterday and today.
This felt like a quiet challenge.
He warned against constantly changing and wearing fake confidence to justify it.
The Contradiction
He said more—some shaped by experience, some debatable.
He stressed avoiding uncontrolled sex at all costs. According to him, it is manipulative and should only exist within a deeply intentional connection.
Ironically, he still had plans to pursue a girl—but on his own terms.
His Closing Words
“That’s my years’ advice. Challenges are common, but avoid alcohol, spirits, and women.
And if you must consider something… consider weed.”
He ended it with:
“kismart.”
I didn’t know what to say.
I simply told him thank you in Swahili.
What Stayed With Me
With the little guided knowledge—wisdom—I have, this is what remained:
Everything remains constant. What changes is what you lean on—your weed.
His was weed.
Mine is God.
That’s who I was speaking to in my meditation.
That’s what I would advise.
Closing Thought
Peace is found in people.
Listen. Connect.
In that moment, I found a small sense of peace—and enough confidence to take the next step.
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